Reminder to self. the one adult population among whom I have been substantially welcome throughout my adulthood is the population of people with an extreme, complex, problem. an emergency....... , if you will, where they thought I might be able to help. Beyond that, not so much, not very long. Initially they naturally project on me a type of person with which they are familiar, they fairly rapidly discover that I am not something that fits in a traditional mold, extremely intense, extremely devoted to a just world, and I become unwelcome pretty fast, although rarely are people rude.