Hmmm.
We have "organized religion."
Let's have "organized parenting."
Let's have "organized marriage."
OXYMORON:
YOU CANNOT HAVE
"ORGANIZED RELIGION."
IT STOPS BEING "RELIGION"
WHEN IT BECOMES "ORGANIZED"
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Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
7.30.2007
ORGANIZED RELIGION? ORGANIZED LOVE? ORGANIZED PARENTING?...
OXYMORON:
YOU CANNOT HAVE
"ORGANIZED RELIGION."
IT STOPS BEING "RELIGION"
WHEN IT BECOMES "ORGANIZED"
5.24.2007
"CHRISTIAN" MARRIAGE? TOTAL SERVICE.
Oh, I wish as a young person I had seen this. Maybe I could have established a marriage with a similarly enlightened person.
If you are open to considering the Truth of this post title, "CHRISTIAN" MARRIAGE? TOTAL SERVICE, then ponder this and you will see it:
Jesus called us each individually to TOTAL SERVICE to "the least of these my family." 'Pick up your cross and follow me' he told us. Well, if individually this is what we are to do, then except for violating this Solution to Life, in Marriage this is what we must do as TWO instead of ONE.
There is no other "Christian" Marriage. THERE IS NO ALTERNATIVE.
If you are open to considering the Truth of this post title, "CHRISTIAN" MARRIAGE? TOTAL SERVICE, then ponder this and you will see it:
Jesus called us each individually to TOTAL SERVICE to "the least of these my family." 'Pick up your cross and follow me' he told us. Well, if individually this is what we are to do, then except for violating this Solution to Life, in Marriage this is what we must do as TWO instead of ONE.
There is no other "Christian" Marriage. THERE IS NO ALTERNATIVE.
DIVORCE / NEGLECT / NON-FAMILY: OUR UN-NAMED RELIGION
See TOXIC WASTE TO THE SPIRIT: Selfishness? -or- NOT-BROTHERLY!!! , THE WORDS THAT COULD SAVE THE WORLD, and CANCER WOULD SEEM LIKE A BRILLIANT INVENTION. SERIOUSLY! TRULY!
Our western culture is based on our ability to divorce ourselves from concern for others under the guise of rugged independence, free market capitalism, and "family" values.
WE SHOULD EXPECT TO SEE, as an early and immediate indicator of the "body's" death from this cancer, a skyrocketing "Marriage Divorce" rate. Divorce from others is what we train our children in from the earliest age.
Our western culture is based on our ability to divorce ourselves from concern for others under the guise of rugged independence, free market capitalism, and "family" values.
WE SHOULD EXPECT TO SEE, as an early and immediate indicator of the "body's" death from this cancer, a skyrocketing "Marriage Divorce" rate. Divorce from others is what we train our children in from the earliest age.
3.12.2007
!!!!!!!! ALFRED ADLER !!!!!!!!!!!!
Adler was a contemporary of Freud. [Be careful! Just as is the case today with our understanding of Jesus teachings, for the same reason, do not, repeat, do not look to any of the "followers" of Adler to understand his work. NEVER. Go to his original writings (link above.) Having said that, to help you guage the credibility of what follows, and the cursory evidence as to where Adler falls in today's field of psychology I point you to a 6o second scan (no longer than that!) of International Association of Individual Psychology, Alfred Adler Graduate School, and dozens of other organizations world-wide.
Adler was as Healthy as Freud was Mentally Sick. Freud is to be forgiven. In essence it is as though was born into and lived his entire life in a mental ward for the seriously insane. Freud had absolutely no concept of "Health." You cannot have a valid psychology without experience and grasp of Health. How can you know what direction to move your clients?
Freud and Adler worked together. Adler broke off in his own direction.
Freud, in a society in Lust with burgeoning Capitalism (mandate to abandon brotherly responsibility; just invented in Freud's time) became its Darling. Freud validated that the toxic effect of inhumane competition was "normal" and therefore something to be accepted; something to be resigned to. It was a perfect marriage!
The parallel between the first 80 years of Jesus' life and that of Adler is enormous in that they both developed an tremendously loyal, potent, committed following that was in the vast minority and either ridiculed or ignored by the "main stream." Adler considered his psychology a "scientific" rendering of Jesus teachings. He was correct. God forgive me for not seeing the global implications until this week.
ESSENCE OF ADLER'S THEORY:
* We are born with an inbuilt paradigm. We WILL see humanity / others as family to be servant to; or enemy to be feared and exploited.
* We are far worse than terrible at managing this paradigm.
* Environment is the key determinant of selecting the paradigm. The environment if courageously "friendly" is likely to cause shift to the "friendly" paradigm in the other - OTHERISHNESS. The environment if at all "hostile" is likely to evoke the paradigm "enemy," "other" to be exploited - SELFISHNESS.
One of the five most difficult, MOST IMPORTANT books I have ever read is Adler's, "The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler." Please get it, read it and understand it. Now. Before it is too late.
Adler was as Healthy as Freud was Mentally Sick. Freud is to be forgiven. In essence it is as though was born into and lived his entire life in a mental ward for the seriously insane. Freud had absolutely no concept of "Health." You cannot have a valid psychology without experience and grasp of Health. How can you know what direction to move your clients?
Freud and Adler worked together. Adler broke off in his own direction.
Freud, in a society in Lust with burgeoning Capitalism (mandate to abandon brotherly responsibility; just invented in Freud's time) became its Darling. Freud validated that the toxic effect of inhumane competition was "normal" and therefore something to be accepted; something to be resigned to. It was a perfect marriage!
The parallel between the first 80 years of Jesus' life and that of Adler is enormous in that they both developed an tremendously loyal, potent, committed following that was in the vast minority and either ridiculed or ignored by the "main stream." Adler considered his psychology a "scientific" rendering of Jesus teachings. He was correct. God forgive me for not seeing the global implications until this week.
ESSENCE OF ADLER'S THEORY:
* We are born with an inbuilt paradigm. We WILL see humanity / others as family to be servant to; or enemy to be feared and exploited.
* We are far worse than terrible at managing this paradigm.
* Environment is the key determinant of selecting the paradigm. The environment if courageously "friendly" is likely to cause shift to the "friendly" paradigm in the other - OTHERISHNESS. The environment if at all "hostile" is likely to evoke the paradigm "enemy," "other" to be exploited - SELFISHNESS.
One of the five most difficult, MOST IMPORTANT books I have ever read is Adler's, "The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler." Please get it, read it and understand it. Now. Before it is too late.
2.25.2007
Dear IFam, I'm back thru the rabbit hole after 35 years
That's the best I can describe it, and problematically, the analogy that has come to me, that of the rabbit hole - I've never read "Alice in Wonderland!" So the analogy my be terrible! But I think not.
My understanding is that Alice traveled between two realms and as we traveled with her into "Wonderland" we could experience how profoundly, and utterly disorienting it was; like the most aggressive of amusement park rides. Well, that is how it feels for me.
I've returned "Home" after 35 years, to our Father's Kingdom, our birthright, the place we are all born to... and leave, needlessly, horrifically. At best, it must look to you like I have gone into Alice's "Wonderland," of a sort. At worst... I can't imagine how it looks to you, or what your fears and hurts might be. But I try to imagine what it is like for you; and I ache and quake at the thoughts.
My first time through the rabbit hole was abandonment of "saving the world," for the pursuit of sex/marriage and the "real" world, making the woman I was married to and my "family" pleased and proud, pursuing the American "way of life." I remember "Business School" at Syracuse University. It felt like Hell. The value was money/stock holder wealth/profit/safety/security/career advancement.... My body literally hurts at the recollection of it. But tragically, rather than recoil, I found what I thought was "courage" and "responsibility" and plunged onward, contorting and crippling my Soul to fit through that inhumanly small rabbit hole.
I spent the next 35 years pretty much, in a world that seemed as absurd and inhuman as "Wonderland" did to Alice.
Well, now I'm back Home, but it's been 35 years.
No one was Home when I left, except for my bio-father, and when I had the sense to find him, the Father of us all. I suppose that is a major reason that I left in the first place - it was so lonely! Trouble is, living away from Home was infinitely more lonely - a world of zombies and no Father!!!!!!!
Well, now that I am back practically no one is Home. But I say practically. It is sort of like a huge Home that has become a field hospital. With the occasional exception of Thomas (who is usually quite ill) and a few others the occupants of Home are so "ill." [Jay, all this "illness" talk, this is pretty offensive! Well, it is like Dave Dellinger said,
"...decent people ... have been conditioned by a sick society into playing anti-social roles, the basic inhumanity of which they do not understand."
"This is a diseased world in which it is impossible for anyone to be fully human. One way or another, everyone who lives in the modern world is sick or maladjusted. Slick businessmen and bosses, parasitical coupon clippers, socially blind lawyers, scientists, and clergymen are as much victims of "a world they never made" as are the rough and irresponsible elements of America's great slums."
"The only way we can begin to break the vicious circle of blindness, hatred, and inequality is to combine an uncompromising war upon evil institutions with an unending kindness and love of every individual-including the individuals who defend existing institutions."
Isn't this what Jesus told us, with all the shit-from-the-ages-that-the-Church-has-piled-on washed off? Isn't this what the "Fall" is ALL ABOUT?!?! Well, back to my points.] Who are these occupants I am encountering? Some are homeless (lowercase "H"), most are materially poor [what do you do if you can't afford a middle class lifestyle for ALL of your kids? :-) Well, I abandoned most of mine, in favor of two. Some of these folks are doing better, abandoning fewer than I did.] They are outcasts of society. THEY EXIST OUTSIDE OF SOCIETY! Hmmmmmm. Like Jesus.
My point? It is not easy being back Home. Back through the Rabit Hole - absurd and profoundly disorienting. Scary. Daunting. I've forgotten the language; I have no idea where things are; if there are resources I don't know where they are; I don't know how to contribute well; it is like a Hospital ward with a bunch of walking wounded and no supplies, no help, NO TRAINING, and NO LEADERSHIP; I'm walking wounded although I've regained a lot of my Health. And, not only is the hospital filled with wounded, not only is the war raging around us, we are the "enemy," or, the "diseased," the masses of really sick people think! They want to lock us away; and they often do.
:-) Enough for now.
Love forever, your brother, jay
My understanding is that Alice traveled between two realms and as we traveled with her into "Wonderland" we could experience how profoundly, and utterly disorienting it was; like the most aggressive of amusement park rides. Well, that is how it feels for me.
I've returned "Home" after 35 years, to our Father's Kingdom, our birthright, the place we are all born to... and leave, needlessly, horrifically. At best, it must look to you like I have gone into Alice's "Wonderland," of a sort. At worst... I can't imagine how it looks to you, or what your fears and hurts might be. But I try to imagine what it is like for you; and I ache and quake at the thoughts.
My first time through the rabbit hole was abandonment of "saving the world," for the pursuit of sex/marriage and the "real" world, making the woman I was married to and my "family" pleased and proud, pursuing the American "way of life." I remember "Business School" at Syracuse University. It felt like Hell. The value was money/stock holder wealth/profit/safety/security/career advancement.... My body literally hurts at the recollection of it. But tragically, rather than recoil, I found what I thought was "courage" and "responsibility" and plunged onward, contorting and crippling my Soul to fit through that inhumanly small rabbit hole.
I spent the next 35 years pretty much, in a world that seemed as absurd and inhuman as "Wonderland" did to Alice.
Well, now I'm back Home, but it's been 35 years.
No one was Home when I left, except for my bio-father, and when I had the sense to find him, the Father of us all. I suppose that is a major reason that I left in the first place - it was so lonely! Trouble is, living away from Home was infinitely more lonely - a world of zombies and no Father!!!!!!!
Well, now that I am back practically no one is Home. But I say practically. It is sort of like a huge Home that has become a field hospital. With the occasional exception of Thomas (who is usually quite ill) and a few others the occupants of Home are so "ill." [Jay, all this "illness" talk, this is pretty offensive! Well, it is like Dave Dellinger said,
"...decent people ... have been conditioned by a sick society into playing anti-social roles, the basic inhumanity of which they do not understand."
"This is a diseased world in which it is impossible for anyone to be fully human. One way or another, everyone who lives in the modern world is sick or maladjusted. Slick businessmen and bosses, parasitical coupon clippers, socially blind lawyers, scientists, and clergymen are as much victims of "a world they never made" as are the rough and irresponsible elements of America's great slums."
"The only way we can begin to break the vicious circle of blindness, hatred, and inequality is to combine an uncompromising war upon evil institutions with an unending kindness and love of every individual-including the individuals who defend existing institutions."
Isn't this what Jesus told us, with all the shit-from-the-ages-that-the-Church-has-piled-on washed off? Isn't this what the "Fall" is ALL ABOUT?!?! Well, back to my points.] Who are these occupants I am encountering? Some are homeless (lowercase "H"), most are materially poor [what do you do if you can't afford a middle class lifestyle for ALL of your kids? :-) Well, I abandoned most of mine, in favor of two. Some of these folks are doing better, abandoning fewer than I did.] They are outcasts of society. THEY EXIST OUTSIDE OF SOCIETY! Hmmmmmm. Like Jesus.
My point? It is not easy being back Home. Back through the Rabit Hole - absurd and profoundly disorienting. Scary. Daunting. I've forgotten the language; I have no idea where things are; if there are resources I don't know where they are; I don't know how to contribute well; it is like a Hospital ward with a bunch of walking wounded and no supplies, no help, NO TRAINING, and NO LEADERSHIP; I'm walking wounded although I've regained a lot of my Health. And, not only is the hospital filled with wounded, not only is the war raging around us, we are the "enemy," or, the "diseased," the masses of really sick people think! They want to lock us away; and they often do.
:-) Enough for now.
Love forever, your brother, jay
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